The Problem of Being the Adult in the Room

EQ can turn you into the adult in the room.

Don’t get me wrong, they will be moments in life when you’ll have to be the adult in the room.

If someone is being manipulative or emotionally-crazed, it’s not like you want to feed into that.

But the emphasis is on MOMENT.

If it goes on for any length of time, then you’re being damaged.

That’s problem one.

The other problem with being the adult in the room is that it doesn’t resolve things.

It just leaves you tolerating things you shouldn’t.

Like abuse, bullying and scapegoating. Toxic dynamics. Politics.

Here’s the problem when you’re facing those kinds of things: people engaged in those behaviors often interpret your reasonableness as weakness.

They’ll remain feeling justified and may even escalate their emotional abuse.

So, if you find yourself being the adult in the room, it’s time to check in with yourself.

What have I been tolerating that I shouldn’t? What feelings have been coming up that I haven’t paid attention to?

How did I get into this pattern?

Am I taking over-responsibility? Why? Am I getting something out of that – or why do I continue to do it?

What do I actually want to happen? What steps can I take (internally, externally) toward that?

#Awareness #ConsciousLeadership #PersonalDevelopment #EmotionalIntelligence #WorkplaceBullying #Burnout #Resilience #MentalHealth #Empowerment #Mastery #WorkplaceMentalHealth

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