We struggle to put ourselves first, feeling guilty. At least, I know I have.
Yet, paradoxically, we serve better when we start with the self. We have more to give.
It makes sense when you think that all you have to give comes through you and from you, so the more you develop that self, the more you have to give and the more deeply and healthfully you can give.
We worry a lot about being selfish, but I notice the more I fill myself up, the more naturally I overflow for others from a place of centeredness and energy.